Have you ever really stopped to think about what you value, what’s important to you in life?
Sometimes you can be so busy working to pay the mortgage/rent, feed the family and pay the bills that you never take time out to think about what is really important to you. It seems there just isn’t enough hours in the day.
Knowing what you value, is vital to creating a healthy life, and building the future that you want. Your values fuel your life, not living by them can make you unhappy, unfulfilled, even angry, and that can be soul destroying.
Have you ever had the opportunity to take a job that you really wanted however there was something abut the company that you really disliked. Maybe they had unethical practices? That’s your values speaking to you.
What you value informs everything you do, what you say and think, how you perceive the world around you. They drive your behaviour, so it’s helpful to know exactly what they are. Once you have this information, you can assess situations more clearly. In fact you may discover that they are actually in conflict, and decide that maybe it’s time to create change or move on.
Values can change over time and can vary depending on current situation. For example, while family may be important to a young person, it may not be one of their top values, however once they have children of their own they may place that value higher on their list.
To create your own values list, think about the things in life you love, like, tolerate or hate. Then see if you can assign a value to that situation. Take a look at your tolerate and hate list. Is there an opposite value that you can apply, one that is important to you.
Once you have finalised a list, prioritise your values until you come up with your top five. If you believe you already know what your values are, this may seem like a pointless exercise.
Give it a go anyway. You might be surprised at what ends up on your list, or it may just reinforce that you have great self-awareness of what’s important to you.
Once you are clear on your values, you can surround yourself with people who support them and pursue activities that are congruent with them.
If you find this task a little challenging, drop me a line, through coaching I can help you discover your values and develop a plan to live by them.